You say my “statement that mainstream gay and lesbian values endorse having multiple partners within the parameter of a same-sex marriage is completely false and dangerously irresponsible.” If it were completely false, why did most of my letters in response to my Chronicle piece say not “But gay people do value monogamy” but instead “what’s the big deal about monogamy?” And these people signed their own names (you can contact them if you don’t believe me).

All gay people can get married, and the government has never stopped them. I know several gays and lesbians in succesful marriages. I plan to marry some day. What gay people cannot do is demand that the government redefine marriage in a way consistent with their minority values on what marriage is.

I could support it, if I knew you gals, but I could never call it “equal”. Separate never is.

Evidentally, the only thing that we have in common is that we are gay. Your statement that mainstream gay and lesbian values endorse having multiple partners within the parameter of a same-sex marriage is completely false and dangerously irresponsible. Even if you can’t endorse same-sex marriage, even though you are gay (and how in the world can you not?), why can’t you see the bigger picture here? All gay people deserve all the rights and opportunities as straight people, including whatever “more pressing issues” your blogophere endorses. All gay people should have the opportunity to get married. Whether they choose to is their own perogative. If you yourself want to be single and sleep with whomever you choose whenever you choose, you have that right. I fortunately now have the right to get married to the same woman that I have been with for the past 27 years. Why can’t you support that?